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Addictions

March 3, 2017February 8, 2023 Addiction, Boundaries, Parentified Children, Recovery, Relationships, Self Esteem, Therapy

“The new Tesla goes from 0 to 100 in 2.5 seconds. The only thing faster than that is a co-dependent who goes from 0 to “dead-in-a-ditch” in one second flat!” ... Read more

Recovery and the Family

February 24, 2017February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Love, Parentified Children, Recovery, Relationships, Therapy

“If the addict is pleased with your help, you are probably enabling… If the addict is pissed as hell, you are probably helping!” Sandy Swenson Addiction has an impact on ... Read more

Where do I end and you begin?

January 27, 2017February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Boundaries, Couples, Love, Parentified Children

One of the most difficult challenges when working with couples and families (especially addicts/alcoholics and those who love them) is helping them understand healthy boundaries. It seems counterintuitive, but the ... Read more

Addiction, Denial, and Self Care

November 11, 2015February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Boundaries, Love, Recovery, Relationships, Self Care, Self Esteem, Therapy, Wellness

“Self-care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others. Anytime we ... Read more

The Rooms of our Life

May 29, 2015March 2, 2023 Addiction, Attachment, Love, Pastoral counselling, Recovery, Relationships, Self Esteem, Spirituality, Therapy, Wellness

There is an Indian proverb or axiom that says that everyone is a house with four rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, and a spiritual. Most of us tend ... Read more

Pre and Postmarital sex – an Anglican perspective

February 11, 2014February 8, 2023 Church, Pastoral counselling, Religion, Self Esteem, Sexuality, Spirituality, Therapy, Uncategorized

I have several friends and clients who because of my Anglican seminary training ask me about the religious or church“rules” concerning sex. Specifically what are the religious “rules” as regards ... Read more