12 Step

Recovery and the Family

February 24, 2017February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Love, Parentified Children, Recovery, Relationships, Therapy

“If the addict is pleased with your help, you are probably enabling… If the addict is pissed as hell, you are probably helping!” Sandy Swenson Addiction has an impact on ... Read more

Where do I end and you begin?

January 27, 2017February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Boundaries, Couples, Love, Parentified Children

One of the most difficult challenges when working with couples and families (especially addicts/alcoholics and those who love them) is helping them understand healthy boundaries. It seems counterintuitive, but the ... Read more

Addiction, Denial, and Self Care

November 11, 2015February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Boundaries, Love, Recovery, Relationships, Self Care, Self Esteem, Therapy, Wellness

“Self-care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others. Anytime we ... Read more

Resentments

March 7, 2015February 8, 2023 12 Step, Attachment, Boundaries, Couples, EFT - Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Love, Recovery, Relationships, Spirituality

There is a quotation from the actor Carrie Fisher that I am sure she picked up in the rooms of AA that says, “Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting ... Read more

Step 3: Who is “driving the bus?”

June 18, 2014February 8, 2023 12 Step, Addiction, Attachment, Love, Parentified Children, Recovery, Spirituality, Therapy

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God Step 3, Alcoholics Anonymous Who is “driving the bus?” Step ... Read more